Our words are a vehicle for expressing and sharing our experiences with others. How you speak to yourself and others directly influences how you experience things in life. If your internal self talk is negative, chances are are that your external experiences will be negative as well.
By simply changing the words you habitually use (the words you consistently use to describe emotions) you can immediately change how you think, how you feel and how you live. Make your internal vocabulary more positive, and you might be pleasantly surprised at the positive external experiences you’ll discover.
Think about your reaction if someone said to you:
” I am infuriated with you” vs
” I am really annoyed” vs
“I am a little peeved at this situation”
Notice how they get lower in their intensity. How would you react if someone said the first one vs the last? Do you think you would be a bit calmer and handle the situation differently? I imagine your heart rate would be quite different! By using less emotionally charged words in your conversations to others you can create a whole different outcome.
If you want to learn more about changing your language listen to this episode.